Monthly Archives: June 2012

Knock knock Knocking on Heavens Door


I love the verse in the bible that talks about asking, seeking and knocking =) It’s just like my mum, along with a lot of yours, used to say… “If you don’t ask you don’t receive.”

 

 

Luke 11:9 So I say to you, Ask and keep on asking and it shall be given you; seek and keep on seeking and you shall find; knock and keep on knocking and the door shall be opened to you.

 

I think this is such a simple truth, and it makes so much difference… To ask or not to ask that is the question! I was thinking how some people are not comfortable asking simple questions of others. I sure can understand it, and I never liked having to do it much myself when I was younger but as I have grown up I have learnt some valuable lessons about this.

I think that a lot of the time people don’t like to ask because they have fear, and not necessarily fear of asking! It can be any number of fears… What will they think of me? What will happen if I ask? What if they say no? etc

I think if you ask anything the right way, with the right tone and motivation then it can’t be THAT wrong. Of course the vital ingredient to everything in our life is WISDOM! Wisdom will keep you on the straight and narrow! It doesn’t prevent the answer from being no, and that is reality, but often a no; can simply turn into a yes without any duress or badgering if you are going about things the right way!

Take the scenario where someone asks someone else something and they come up against a brick wall. The initial reaction can quite often be like that, but I have found that if you do this all the right way that quite often what seems to be a solid brick wall is often just a facade and really the wall is made of cardboard and the desired outcome will be met. I just think that quite often things will work out and get sorted if it is done the right way! No harm in asking is what I am saying!

I am also saying that there is so much we don’t need to miss out on in life. So much of it is right there for the taking but people are restricted and so they just watch opportunity constantly walking by! Please hear me if you are caught in this cycle and you feel like you are missing out all the time… Don’t put off asking for things because you are scared… Ask and you will most probably be pleasantly surprised! And you will be blessed too and you will have more to give out to others too!

So my tips are:

  • Have integrity
  • Ask politely, use your words!
  • Check your motivations.
  • Listen to the tone of your voice!
  • Dont pressure people!
  • Use wisdom!

~\Cam/~

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Quantity or Quality…


ImageBeen talking to a few different people over the last few days about friends, and friendship groups.  I used to be someone who had a lot of friends that I caught up with on a regular basis. I loved it but it also took a lot of time and work and even though it was mostly very pleasant, it’s not sustainable on a long-term basis.

Over the last 8 years a LOT has changed in my life and in my circles… they changed completely actually… Learnt some long painful lessons but these were very valuable. You see I was under the delusion that people care more than  they actually do… I know it’s not always the case but its the truth. And it takes something painful to realise and acknowledge that this is a fact.

I was involved with a large group of people and I always loved connection, encouraging others, helping people find their place etc and so I THOUGHT that I had a lot of friends. In actuality I had a LOT of acquaintanceship’s! In fact when the rubber hit the road, and it came to the crunch, the people who I thought were my friends were not there for me in anywhere near the capacity that I thought they would be. I was completely shocked, let down and disappointed.

Its ok! I look back now and I get it, and its part of being involved in large groups, it’s just part of the way they function. it was me just naively hoping and expecting for more because that is how I operate… I want to be genuine, that’s how I do life… in a genuine way. I don’t like superficiality, I am not just talking about conversations I am talking about depth of friendship, quality of friendship. If I am your friend then that means more to me than hearing from you every blue moon. You don’t have to live in anyone’s pockets but the contact is very regular and its special, its sincere and meaningful… otherwise I wouldn’t call you friend.

In the last 12 months though the amount of people in my life increased dramatically! Of course through Facebook and my FB pages Light for Life, Loving Without Expectations and The Answer I’ve Found… I don’t make friends with all my fans or it would become not meaningful for the people who really are in my life but from time to time, I interact with someone on my page to the point that I think we must be meant to be friends, I usually find out there is a reason that we needed to become friends… either for my sake or theirs, and then its even more special and rewarding.

I am thankful for the circle of friends in my life that has DECREASED! Decreased to a manageable number that I can love and share with properly. I know I cant be there for each of the way that I would like for all of them but at least now I know what I need to do for most of them. Whether it’s a phone call, a gift, a quick email, if they are local then a catch up but its good when you can learn the boundaries, expectations and protocol for each relationship, and they are different for all…

Finding what works for you in your life is the first thing and then finding the people who slot comfortably within that is the way to go… There are good dynamics and they are there for a reason… When our lives, thoughts, beliefs and morale’s resonate with other human beings then we have the makings of a successful partnership for the common good of all! Sometimes difficult people are also meant to be in your life, after all it’s not all going to be easy or maybe we would be in heaven but if something really is a LOT of hard work then in the end you have to begin to question its purpose and future!

Surely its better to have one amazing friend then 10 average ones! Think about this and put your life and circles into perspective!

~\Cam/~

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Options….


I have a strong sense at the moment that I am chasing myself around in circles. I am on holidays and I had planned on working  on streamlining things in my life but at the moment because I have been researching lots of different things that I havent had time to do before; I have actually created more OPTIONS for myself!

In seeking to minimize I wonder how it is that the time I would need to do all these things got multiplied so easily? I mean after all there are only so many hours in the day and even then there are things we must do as a priority and also there are clearly limits to our physical bodies which exist in time and space!

I think options are a great thing, I always want options. Ask my friends and family. Whenever its possible to have an option rather than one choice I will always look for it and then mull over it… Options means you have choice, you can work out what is best for you but sometimes when you have too many options it means  you could end up wasting a lot of time trying to figure things out.

So as you may know I had been away on holidays for a week in the country. Of course I over packed because I liked to have plenty of options. I took my own Doona so that I could even have the option of my bedding and more warmth. I took a whole bag full of books with me ‘just in case’, and my beautiful friend joked with me… ‘one book is enough!’.  Of course the God‘s honest truth is that I just couldn’t fit in all my options, I barely read any book and perhaps even less than normal! I took all my painting gear so that I might get some time to put paint to canvas but when it got down to it I wouldn’t have time to do that properly either.

I wonder if I will learn a lesson eventually and hone what it is that I want to do? What is the most valuable and work on that and do some quality time on it rather than flitting from one thing to another like a honey bee that has too many flowers to choose from!

You have to work out if you are helping or hindering yourself! Are your options enhancing your life or are they spreading you way to thin so make any time or any option count for the most good!

Maybe its time to chop the list down an ‘option’ or two! =)

Love

~\Cam/~

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